Betrayal, humiliation and violence are a few of the many errors that are difficult to forgive. Especially if that things is done by people who we most care about. However, when the man admitted his mistake and say sorry, whether we should forgive him or just ignore such an apology?
It is humane if the person, who has been hurt, has difficulty in forgiving. However, some experts say that forgiveness will make the mind and our heart feels more peaceful and even the process of self development will continue normally, rather than struggling with the pain and reluctance to forgive those who have hurt us.
What is Forgiveness (sincerely)?
Giving a sincere apology is a form of courageous attitude to compromise with the pain of various shapes attitudes and unpleasant treatment from others.
Forgiveness means also can accept other people’s mistakes and do not intend to the pain ever felt for the actions of others – because we consciously know that it is not fun being hurt – and not (again) hatred or revenge.
The courage to forgive the mistakes of others is what makes a person who get hurt become a more mature and tough person. It is because with these painful events, there will be many valuable lessons that can be explored more deeply.
Between forgiving and forgetting
Although we have given a verbal apology, but in the heart (very reasonable) the pain has not faded. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting the unpleasant treatment had ever experienced.
So, “forgive” it can provide two mutually opposite effect. To the giver of pardon, the word “sorry” can provide a soothing effect – even though some people still have the wounds ; while for the recipient sorry, the word “sorry” can become a “moral condemnation” – even though his mistake was unforgivable orally.
The positive effects of forgiveness
• Forgiveness with all heart can make life happier. Because of the possibility of a grudge too long can cause unexpected diseases.
• Forgiveness can relieve the burden on the mind. Creating a more relaxed mind and enrich the spirit to rise from the crash.
• Forgiveness can also be a chance to learn to improve ourselves to become a better person.